Kaduna was honoured to have hosted an event which is foreseen to be a milestone in the political, social and economic awareness for the progression of Arewa.

It is no secret that the people of Arewa have a fiery spirit of nationalism, leadership and of survival burning inside of them. 

It is no secret that a set of people instrumental to fighting for Nigeria’s independence and in fashioning Nigeria to become a great post-colonial country are majorly from the North. This much is evidenced in books of history and auto-biographical recounts of those who witnessed the birth of the nation.

But it is equally not a secret that that spirit of doing greater things innate in the heart of the North has fallen into a grave coma which threatens the stability and the core elements that make up the Northern part of Nigeria.

The 5th and 6th of July, 2019 marked the much anticipated maiden Northern Youth Summit themed; ‘Awakening The Arewa Spirit’. A product of the Northern Youth Initiative, the Northern Youth Summit was organised as a positive energy to jolt awake the otherwise comatose Arewa spirit.

I was privy to the first event, a networking and marketing program which chiefly featured an exhibition of a variety of wares, products and food from vendors from all over.

It was an event which fed the eyes on plenty colourful people some of whom were familiar social media faces, tickled the nose with wafts of sizzling aromatic chicken and other assortment of delicacies and gave a sense of delight with fragrances from different incense stands.

Many other things on display were clothings, accessories, arts and craft and other wares. 

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All shameless advertising aside, it was a good way to network.

In recounting the 2nd day of the summit which was tagged “The Talk” (I wasn’t opportune to attend as I was socially unavailable), Architect Hauwa Musa, the CEO of Tahmys Spices and SOVs and a volunteer said ‘it was an insightful event that went for the jugular’.

‘It outlined the problems facing arewa: laziness, poverty, illiteracy, lack of discipline, lack of self reliance and poor knowledge of the institution of marriage as well as entitlement.

It was divided into three panels : 

Changing mindset’ which focused on the laziness of the arewa youth and our reliance on hand me downs. The proffered solutions were : The establishment of an all inclusive entrepreneurship program and center with satellite campuses in each arewa state so youths can learn skills that will benefit them, and a monitoring of these youths to ensure continuity and success.

Another action call is the creation of the Northern Hibiscus app to register and monitor arewa businesses to protect them from social media scammers and also help businesses save money (adashe), all for the betterment of the youth.

She highlighted the The 2nd Panel : Entrepreneurship from Zero to Hero where they talked about the steps leading to success in the entrepreneurship world. The panelists advised that there is no easy way to business and that steadfastness and patience pays.

And that entrepreneurs, especially female entrepreneurs should refuse to give up and accept defeat in any chosen field of business they venture into.

On the last panel: the decay in our marital institution moderated by Ali Amin discussed the rising rate of divorce in arewa, it’s causes and probable solutions.

They discussed issues like : unrealistic expectations (fake portrayal), forced marriage, cheating and lack of preparedness of the youth for the institution of marriage and the patriarchal lifestyle of the north.

The rhetorical questions like “is the institution failing because woman are beginning to speak up?” were asked.The panelists pointed out that there was no full proof solution to this problem and different solutions for different problems and individuals but these solutions can go a long way in dealing with these problems.

Keeping God close and your family close, maintaining fidelity, mutual respect within the marriage, communication, constant feedback within the marriage and most importantly, knowing who you are marrying and expecting a spouse to change after marriage. They implored on individuals to understand the institution, the person’s vices and bring back the concept of marriage contract and also gain understanding of one’s rights and responsibilities towards a spouse.

Umar Buhari Ali summarised the whole Summit beautifully.

‘The Northern Youth Summit was organised to draw the attention of the youth with a view to reawakening the Arewa spirit. 

His Excellency, Ahmed El-Rufai , the Governor Of Kaduna State, happened to be an accidental guest at the occasion. Highlights of issues discussed include poverty, almajiranchi(bara), drug abuse, broken homes and marriages, gender molestation among other ills. It is very clear that the time is high for the Northern Youth to rewrite their story.

Gov El-rufai admitted the fact that the youth will have to get on the stage and pointed out how he has been encouraging and bringing a number of them on board in his government. 

Hon Abdulmumini Jibrin, a Kano state Lawmaker who was the main sponsor, in his keynote address emphasised the need for us to stop living in our past glory and face the future with courage and determination.

Hajiya Aisha El-rufai noted the unfortunate incident involving a Northern Youth Senator that has gone viral and offered some words of advice while the DG NBTI commended the governor for his bold initiatives .

Maryam Lemu other guests and panelists all made their contributions.

A member of the Local Organizing Committee and founder of Arewa’s top Instagram blog, Muhammad Awwal of Hausa Fulani said that been the part of the LOC is a huge accomplishment for me and for all. 

‘We all appreciate Aisha Falke for bringing this amazing idea of awakening Arewa to the table. Northern Youth Summit 2019 was indeed a glamorous success! 

The Summit was about changing our mindset for the better and how we can come together as a unit, empower, support and promote ourselves. It also highlighted how we can revive our values as a society and much more.

We need to start talking to ourselves about the series of problems  affecting our society; issues of insecurity, drug abuse, Almajiri, marriage problems, etc.

I strongly believe that this summit will surely bring positive changes as long as we can come together and work as one. 

And I’m certain this summit shall continue annually In Sha Allah.All thanks to the entire officials for this incredible event’ concluded Awwal.

With emphasis on how the Northern Youth Summit personally impacted her, Dr. Bilkisu Yusuf Yakubu had this to say, ‘The Northern Youth Summit was an amazing experience. I realised that Northern Nigeria has what it really takes to be a great place not a place where we are meant to suffer.

The third panel made me discover that we have a lot of work to do in the aspect of marriage. Parents don’t prepare their children for marriage and a lot of couples don’t really know what they are up for so most marriages are based on what people see on social media not knowing no two marriages are identical.

By and large I have been motivated beyond my imagination to pursue my goal of combining being a doctor , a housewife and an Entrepreneur In Sha Allah. DOCPRENEUR’.

Personally, the highlight of the event I attended physically was not only when we made sales or business contact but the interaction that came from it.

The highlight of the event I attended virtually was the impromptu visit of the most proactive Nigerian Governor and his wife Hajiya Aisha Ummi Garba who is easily the most stylish First Lady. Her dressing for both events were my favorite. 

So all said and done, a question still nags the base of my brain, what does this summit mean to Arewa as a whole, not to the organisers only, not to the attendees or participants but to the common man. The ones on the streets, the ones who had no idea the summit took place. Will it be a catalyst to a domino effect of restoration of the Arewa glory or a talk that was heard, applauded and photographed whose lessons are frozen in time and left in the venue of the summit.

Will it be the genesis of an annual awakening till we wake up from our developmental hibernation? Or will it be a written achievement attached to a paper stored in the archives of a passive history?

One thing is for sure. The summit happened, impact was felt, it is left for the ones imparted with the tools to make a change to do so. Because all talk and now work is a cause that has already been lost.

A suggestion I’d like to make to the organizers for the next summit is to work under the umbrella of the organising initiative, Northern Youth Initiative and not as a personal cause because the success of the initiative is a success to them and to all. I suggest they be more in the shadows, that will be more appealing to even international communities because NGO’s always attract more than individuals.

Another is to diversify the speakers. Get more speakers who are less in the public eye but equally, if not more experienced. And for the sake of inclusivity, people from different backgrounds , works of life and beliefs because what we lack more than anything is an understanding that the world is wider than our immediate and environment and that there’s a lot to learn from others than we realise.

Yes he did beat her BUT she provoked him, BUT she insulted him, BUT she shouldn’t have been there, BUT she dressed wrong, BUT she/ he was cheating, BUT he annoyed her…

Plenty of Senator Elisha, Pastor Biodun and Hanans husbands sympathizers have a series of buts lined up at the base of their throats ready to defend their actions.

Have you realized that the buts are mere excuses used to try and justify your actions or the actions of whoever it is you are defending? 

Violence means inflicting physical pain and what I’m addressing now is consciously and willfully inflicting pain on another person on the basis that they have wronged you or you feel entitled.

There are so many appropriate ways to react. So many right ways to of expressing displeasure for example by voicing it out and there are so many peaceful methods of settlement and violence is not one of them.

The beating culture is on a rise. It has been condoned by the society from time immemorial but awareness that no one has a right to your body but you is really settling in. If you take yourself to a place were beating is a sport, then you’ve signed up for it. But were you take your child to a school and a teacher beats him; it’s wrong. Because we know it’s for the sake of deterrence but what if that isn’t his lucky day and he hits a very sensitive organ or worse, kills the child. 

A husband has no right to lay a finger on his wife, a religious leader has no right to harass, a high government official has no right to slap, a woman has no right to pour acid based on jealousy, a teacher has no right to hit. It is not your body and you are not the law, you have no right to inflict pain.

Now a sort of revolution has started in Nigeria which is a product of the self-awareness aforementioned. People are angry at the growing rate of beating and harassment or rather of reported beating and harassment cases and that has led a demand for accountability. That is the only reason why a woman who allegedly stabbed her husband in self defense was not ostracised and why a pastor reported for sexual harassment was made to step down and why a senator who slapped a woman several times on camera has been detained. This is the power of the people.

Once harassment is not being condoned by the society regardless of gender and the people who do so are made to come to order, we will see a noticeable change for the better in the appalling beating culture and the victims will have a courage to not only speak out but stand their own.

I started making money for myself when I was in the University. My sisters and I used part of our scholarship, went to the markets and bought some gowns and skirts unlike the ones you’d find in Kano. I was very bad at marketing then (still learning) so my friends usually did all the marketing for me. 

Before then my sister was selling pepper and garin danwake. She was even taking them to shops. 

The profit wasn’t much. But it was something. I didn’t realise it at that time but it was the experience and orientation that mattered most and the responsibility that comes with sourcing your own income.

What I’ve always hated most in my life was asking for things especially money, not even from my Dad. As students sometimes it just doesn’t cut it. The pocket money doesn’t even cover the basics atimes and we want some stuff other than the basics for example my friend is getting married, I want to buy her asoebi on my own.

 Read through these five ways you can earn as a student, choose one that’s best for you, share with others and drop suggestions (What’s more, little or no capital is needed):

1, Craft- Anything involving hands and creativity. This is for people who can think outside of the box. Can you think up something unique and creative and make them with your hands with very little capital? E.g fancy ankara notebooks with blings for students or fancy decorated pens or totes or school bags (ankara or not) because Ankara and blings are in vogue. I know some siblings that craft coconuts shells into necklaces of different shapes. As a student you can think up something that other students may find appealing at little cost and sell them.

Are you clever with your hands when it comes to drawing or henna tattoos or plaiting hair? Can you design veils or clothes by yourself? The list is endless because the possibilities are endless. What do students need, give them.

2, Selling Phone Accessories- Phone accessories do bring in money. Everyday chargers get bad, ear pieces spoil, new phone cases are needed and batteries get weak. You could stock them up and sell right in the hostel, advertise on your timeline on Instagram and Whatsapp status. Unique phone cases are available on Ali Express at a good price and students will rush it.

3, Selling Clothings and accessories – You can sell clothings that are in demand or in vogue be it apparel, veils etc. Jewelries,bags and shoes for both men and women of affordable price also make a good market. You could always sell materials for both men and women.

4, Selling Perfume-  Perfume is a surprisingly good venture for students. I know of a student who is about to open a perfume shop and he started from buying one. If you want perfumes on wholesale I could always hook you up. Sell to those Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, colleagues and social media followers.

5, Freelance Writing/ Graphic designing- (Zero capital needed) Are you talented in writing? Then you shouldn’t just write. I started making money as a freelance writer as a student and it was the best thing that happened to me. It helped me a lot. You could apply on Elancer and Problogger but hardly do Nigerians ever make the cut. They always assign the jobs to themselves. Better option is to actively follow blogs and magazines and send them emails with sample write-ups. You might never know which one will send a positive reply.

If you are a web or graphic designer as a student you could offer your services to businesses. Plenty want a website , they just don’t know where to get one. Or you could design logos and flyers for them.

6, Blogging/Vlogging- Lifestyle blogging or vlogging (Youtube videos), travel blogging, Students blog (e.g Your life in ABU) believe me many in the same situation as you will troop in to read especially if you give them useful information they can relate with.

You could also have a food blog or vlog, makeup, fashion, or anything that interests you. With time, blogging opens up a source of income for you in unexpected ways.

7, Selling Makeup and Cosmetics- Make up products and cosmetics are always in demand. The trick is to sell things that get finished easily like cosmetics as opposed to things that can be used for a long period of time. That way, demand is always there.

8, Advertise- You have no capital? you cannot do things that need no capital? You are even confused on a choice of business? But you can see everyone doing one sort of business or the other? Contact them (preferably family members), offer to advertise for them, agree on a referral fee and start. Post on your social media platforms and get referral fee for each product sold through you. It’s as easy as that.

9, Edibles- Some utilize their weekends by making small chops and snacks, smoothies, milk shakes, chicken wings and nuggets, cakes for birthdays etc. They already have an established market and when it’s weekend, they sell.

So are you a student tired of being constantly broke? Get a light thing to do which doesn’t require too much effort and time and good luck.

I was the most frustratingly awkward human to wake up on this Earth.

It’s better now but that doesn’t mean I don’t get awkward, just less. Even today, I’d rather watch as people talk when we are in a closed group than to be the one talking, that means the limelight is on me. But ironically, I loveeee public speaking and I’m pretty good at it. I can speak on a stage before thousands of people but no, I do not want to be the one speaking in a closed group, weird much?

When I was younger, especially during my secondary school days, it was bad. I know we all went through that phase because hey adolescence! but I was the typical Wattpad novel awkward teen with body image issues and lack of confidence. I couldn’t look people in the eye, not even a newborn.

I couldn’t speak to people straight and guys??? Shoot me please. I get wobbly kneed when passing a group of guys… who may be 2 junior boys.

I get nervous talking to the ladies too, I feel like they are always forming opinions and passing judgements about my self and body and my awkwardness which made me more nervous and therefore more awkward.

I know you are tired of the word but I can’t help it. I never wanted to be noticed among the crowd, the limelight was my enemy but that was kind of hard for the second tallest girl in the whole set so I always stood tall, but somehow made sure I was never seen, just seen through.

I think that was when I developed my reading habit. Books saved me when nothing else was looking bright. Thank you books, I love you too.

I hated mingling with others (still kind of do), I conversed with myself (still very much do), I craved alone time (still do), I’d rather listen than speak (Same even now, except when it’s in writing) but at least, I don’t get awkward around people and around men because, well, they are men…nothing special ( full disclosure: I don’t get as awkward)

Today, some things considered normal make me cringe, some conversations make me want to run, some people make me nervous, I still don’t know how to react many times and I still don’t like being among people but am I very awkward? Sometimes, but it’s better now. 

I know some unbelievers of jinxing may come for me but I strongly believe that what you say, may end up having a strong effect in your later life.

That being said, I am sick and tired and fed up and … of the phrase ‘men are scum’. We get it, men do bad stuff, unthinkably horrid stuff, men are not perfect, men suck sometimes but so do women. Bottomline; men , women, kids, whatever =humans and humans, try as you may to think otherwise, can never be perfect. Got it? Great. 

Now that out of the way, let’s talk about the generalization part. No single species or group of people are all the same. They can never be all bad or all good. We are all guilty of stereotyping (I’m unproudly guilty) but come on some just get old, e.g men are scum.

Some bad things are bound to happen, we can’t escape them, it’s life, but some things- we call them upon ourselves. When you sing praises of men are scum like a life devotion or a strength mantra it gets to and does funny things to your head. You get to see the worse in every man no matter how seemingly good he may be. You tend to ignore the great qualities. You tend to judge every situation unfairly against the man without hearing the other side. You tend to be stuck up and blind. You tend to see what you wish to see and honestly, that’s not life. I mean where’s the fun? In fact you attach too much importance to that when many things are very much more important e.g personal growth. And if you are unwilling to see the good in a person, then there’s nothing the person can do that can change your mind. 

And then if eventually as fate will have it you fall into Femi’s trap, we are doomed on the social media circles because it’s about to be a month’s dedication on motivational speech men are scum epistles. You don’t move on because you can’t because men… men are scum!. 

This life is as it was meant to be and if your man is scum, he is and if he isn’t, he isn’t. Just because he is scum doesn’t mean they all are. He is. And when the next one comes, go with the flow, loosen up, enjoy the ride, because the other option is too dreary to be and because we may never know what is in stock.

Please stop the men are scum already. I know that they can do the most!!! I know some things some men do is Authubillah! I know it can be frustrating but do not jinx your life because of Jack.

My Dad is not scum, my brothers aren’t, majority of the men I know aren’t, my husband and kids are not (In Sha Allah) and they are all men!.

Honestly that confuses me too. I dream for myself a good life, I never dream small. Inference: I dream for myself a big good life and that requires happiness, contentment and money so I look for it the halal way because I believe that if it’s haram, remove contentment out of the picture.

Sometimes all I think about is how to make more money, be financially independent, make enough to explore the world so when I’m in that phase, I’m all money, money, money.  But some people don’t appreciate that, to them, I just love money too much and it’s unhealthy… especially for a girl (how my gender has anything to do with that baffles me) because apparently guys are intimidated by rich ladies. Okay!

When people ask me why I want to make money or what I’ll do with it I always say it’s because I want to be comfortable.

I want to be able to do stuff for myself without begging for it. I want to give out to others, I want to buy what I want without fear of running dry. I want to live knowing I can sustain myself and those around me for a while without running out.

I want to travel placessss; Italy, France, Beverly Hills, Qatar. 

I don’t want to live in rented places,I want to own it. I want to just halal-own my stuff. Is that me being over-ambitious or realistic “especially for a girl”.

People say ‘kadan mai albarka’ meaning ‘a few blessed coins’ but how about ‘plenty blessed coins’. Islam said nothing about having many properties except the fact that you must account for it and that is scary yes but better to have a good account Alhamdulillah than the other option.

They say you shouldn’t be too ambitious, you are not married and I’m just even taking baby steps now, what will happen when I decide to soar?  I’m sorry if my quest for a good life is off-putting to you but you either join forces or stay away because I’m not putting my life on hold nor will I hibernate my dreams. I mean it’s one life for Allah’s sake, why so uptight?

They say you shouldn’t be more ambitious than your husband but now that isn’t my fault is it. Besides I think my ambition is standard I’m just willing to push it where many aren’t. So if my husband-whosoever that may be- is or wishes to make it in that aspect of life then fine, let’s keep moving, but if he doesn’t, just support me and don’t stand on the way. As long as you try, I’ll appreciate it. 

Besides in case I’m richer than my husband, he will never ever know it. I know how the ego of men work and to make peace reign, unless it is unavoidable, you are richer. I’m not one to flaunt money and wealth, I’m one to use it.

Finally, money is NOT everything. It’s not even half of everything in life honestly so if I put so much effort in making money, then that means I put more effort in making other things work. So why is this one now chucking your eye?

Some people are people’s people. They can be around people 20 hours a day and never get tired. They’d rather be with people longer than they will be with themselves. They are extroverts, social, and very confident and comfortable around people.

Some people cannot stand others. They’d rather be alone 20 hours in a day. In fact, they don’t even like people. They are very reserved and might not be confident around others. Socializing is a strenuous task for them.

Then there’s me. I can be around people, I can socialize, I can be with others 20 hours in a day but honestly, I’d rather not.

Sometimes I want people around, most times I want them away. And I know why.

It’s a different thing to chat or be on social media, I’m at home so no (much) problem. But for me to actually go out of my house! That is a mighty problem. I don’t go out except I can’t help it (Market, Hospital…. oh yes of course, work). Socializing and hanging out are major tasks even for a productive purpose.

When I share no common interests or point of view or discussion point with a person, then I can’t relate much with him. If I can’t relate much with a person, then there’s not a point being around the person. Now I might feel this way around people I can even converse with.

For me to want to be around a person then that means the person really gets me to a certain extent and I can be myself with the person at all times. I can handle otherwise (when I’m not comfortable with a person) but I’d rather not, so I’m always surprised when some people are comfortable with everyone and they can be with everyone and speak to everyone. How fam?

I don’t even like talking much except it’s about a novel or cartoon. I don’t like repeating stuff, if I say it once I’d rather not say it again.

I don’t like arguing with people’s opinions and beliefs.

I don’t like it when people think my normal conversation is a battle of intellect and so they start showing off their IQ when in fact I don’t even know if I have one.

Generally, except when I really see the need to (because of the person or topic), there’s little or no point to talking more than absolutely necessary. Ever.

Hi. I’m Hafsah, and sometimes, when I look at myself, my face, my body, I feel like it’s not good enough. Sometimes I have issues, body image issues and usually I am my own critic- not others. It’s fine if you do the same thing too. It’s fine if sometimes you feel down because you wished your curves are curvier, it’s fine if it’s often and not all the time, it makes us human.

We were never created perfect so noticing our imperfections physically is a good sign. Next, we accept it, we can’t do anything about it, we embrace it, we love it.

I feel uneasy about how my tummy looks in a tight blouse ‘ I look pregnant’, I say. But don’t hate that part of me. I hope it could be flat sometimes but it’s not flat and I’m okay. I’m still the same person and I have 50 dollars down that I’ll still be the same person with a flat tummy.

TV, social media, the internet, magazines all don’t help when it comes to self-esteem and body image issues. You just have to discountenance all those ideals as the unrealistic and unrelatable made up standards that they are. Because in the long run, who gets to define, design and decide what really is beauty and perfection? The Creator . And since the all perfect Creator who never makes a mistake created you like this then best believe you are as good as you could ever get.

If I wish to exercise so much my tummy flattens it has to be for me. It has to be my choice, it has to not have anything to do with the expectations of others on who I should be or the stereotypical images of ideal body on the Tv.

I have plenty body image issues, my face size, my nose, my skin tone, my hair line (and guess what? Many other things that people actually compliment me about)… but I’ve embraced it and the fact that I majorly love me like this though sometimes I may feel insecure, is all part of living.

Keeping Up With Social Media

Social media is the greatest most destructive millennial development. It has turned the whole world into a global street so that you can access information and people with no fuss. Now while that’s mostly a good thing, you stumble on things that make you question your choices.

One of the very first platforms to reach Nigeria was Hi-5. I didn’t know about the Hi-5 craze until it was almost over and almost all my friends were on it. I wasn’t particularly crazed about the prospect of meeting strangers I couldn’t actually meet.

Then came Facebook, then 2go, then BBM now these I actively participated in. So I watched the metamorphosis of those platforms from media of connecting with people to a means of corrupting people. 2go was the worst.

People thought the most they could do was chat up friends and family, make new friends, try to lure people of the opposite gender into a flirting spree, exchange phone numbers etc. When I’d log on 2go and see the nonsense going on in different groups, I’d think that is the height of it. Little did I know that it was a saintly arena compared to the future decay.

Now many of those social media platforms are just mine fields of indecency, insecurity, narcissism, immorality and many mental ills.

People utilize it for social harm and gratification out of that than for social good and a free conscience.

The timelines of Facebook are marred with lies and time-wasting stories rather than important news and socializing.

The pages of Instagram are riddled with gossip and name-calling rather than sharing and catching up.

The streets of 2go are deconsecrated by immoral ideals and vapid talk.

Even LinkedIn, a professional networking site has more love and immoral proposals in the message sectionthan work proposals.

Youtube content helps you waste hours and plenty data watching people spew useless stuff which you won’t remember in a few hours time.

Snapchat affords you a chance to watch small children ‘live there best lives’ according to social aesthetics even if they aren’t necessarily happy about that and yes, you can follow everyone’s lives right up to the colour of their underwear because that’s the whole point. Then after that, gossip about what you watched in the Dms.

And then when they have adulterated the true use of the platforms, they meet on WhatsApp.

If you wish to maintain your dignity as a person do not be caught dead roaming the streets of some platforms because they are a one-chance street.

And to maintain your sanity in others do not believe a word posted or a smile splayed or a story said or a life displayed because anyone can take a happy picture, but only a few are truly happy after the shot.

Now all of these realisations took time and change to register. And according to the true nature of the platforms, it is a duty upon you to keep up with trends, literally follow the lives of the people you are following(because you have nothing better to do), suck up all the idealogies and propaganda they subtly release because that is about the aim of the apps and be a merry smartphone puppet.

Now all that notwithstanding, social media is an absolutely amazing tool for those who actually know how to use it for the best and that’s those who know how to develop themselves, network, form meaningful relationships or strengthen existing ones, be productive, impact others, source for jobs or further their businesses and generally positively develop themselves.

Just know that it should be more for keeping in touch than gossiping and stalking. It should be more for linking up with like minded people than negative ones, it should be more for putting your capabilities out their than putting your life and beauty none of which are your achievements.

The Season Of Moral Decay

Life’s not meant to make sense all the time.

Sometimes we don’t make sense and life has no sense and nothing makes sense.

It’s a topsy turvy world. An hourglass kind  of place, today you are high up the contentment scale and tomorrow, rock bottom.

I won’t tell you that you can do it and you’ll be fine and you should pick up the fallen senses and build a six story mansion in the sky because then I’ll just be like a con-artist motivational speaker.

I’ll tell you that in my years on earth (which might seem not that much) I figured that you are entitled to your plenty ‘life is not making sense periods’.

It’s not necessarily teenage years or mid-life crises, everything in between counts and should not be downplayed.

If life makes sense 24/7/4/12 then I doubt life will even be any fun or interesting. I mean you’ve figured everything out, move on to the next level.

There’s a reason why we need God , there’s a reason why we need to confide and seek His guidance, if everything is spelt out then I hardly think we will.

The figuring out part, the contemplation on direction, the part where you are trying to reconcile who you really are, who you thought you were and who you’d like to be , the confusing part (who should I be with, what’s best for me), the unraveling part, the puzzle-solving part of life is actually 80% of it and eventually it gives life meaning and keeps you on your toes and growing.

So life doesn’t make sense? Yup, mine too most times is jumbled up but las las, we go dey alright.