-50% of mental illness begins by age 14

-Borderline Personality Disorder is the most misdiagnosed. It’s so misdiagnosed, in fact, that there isn’t even an accurate prevalence rate for the condition

-Borderline Personality Disorder is the most painful to live with. BPD can produce symptoms of intense emotional pain, psychological agony, and emotional distress.

-Having more than one mental disorder is called comorbidity or co-occuring disorder (7.9million of adults in the US, don’t know about Nigeria).

When you think you have every mental disorder, it’s a disorder in itself called somatic symptom disorder. The symptoms associated with somatic symptom disorder are not under the person’s voluntary control, and they can cause great distress and can interfere with a person’s life.

-When a person doesn’t have the ability to perceive or recognize his mental illness, it is called anosognisia or lack of insight (denial).

The reason why people with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder refuse medications or do not seek treatment claiming they are fine.

-The five main warning signs of mental illnesses generally are as follows:

  • Excessive paranoia, worry, or anxiety.
  • Long-lasting sadness or irritability.
  • Extreme changes in moods.
  • Social withdrawal.
  • Dramatic changes in eating or sleeping pattern.

-Autotopagnosia- A type of agnosia involving loss or impairment of the ability to recognize (i.e., point to) parts of one’s own body. 

  • 5 major mental disorders most likely to run in the family
  • autism, 
  • attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
  • bipolar disorder
  • major depressive disorder and schizophrenia

-Clerambault syndrome or erotomania or psychotic love is characterized by the delusional idea, usually in a young woman, that a man whom she considers to be of higher social and/or professional standing is in love with her.  

The core symptom of the disorder is that the sufferer holds an unshakable belief that another person is secretly in love with them.

-Othello syndrome (OS) is a type of paranoid delusional jealousy, characterized by the false absolute certainty of the infidelity of a partner, leading to preoccupation with a partner’s sexual unfaithfulness based on unfounded evidence 

Transableism is a term that refers to the desire to acquire a disability through choice rather than happenstance.

The syndrome of apotemnophilia, body integrity or amputee identity disorder, is defined as the desire for amputation of a healthy limb, and may be accompanied by behaviour of pretending to be an amputee and sometimes, but not necessarily, by sexual arousal.

What do you know about autism and aspergers?

What if I told you that there many people living with autism or on the spectrum that have not and will never diagnosed because it is not physically apparent?

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a developmental disorder that affects communication and behavior. It means the individually is not a neurotypical therefore he does not process information and emotions the typical way.

1 out of every 125-150 children in Nigeria is autistic.

That is roughly 600,000 children living on the spectrum.

This is from a study in 2014 and not taking adults into account. 

ASPERGERS is a high functioning autism. People living with aspergers have milder signs of social and communication impairment.

This in turn makes it harder for people living with aspergers to be diagnosed. 

People living on the spectrum are just wited different, sometimes it shows physically, most times it doesn’t. There’s no known cause though genetics plays a role.

Contrary to what people may think about autism and the intellect, autistic people more often than not have a higher IQ.

Popular people on the spectrum? Einstein for starters.

Bill Gates, Tim Burton, Isaac Newton, Steve Jobs, Elon Musk … you get the picture.

Safe to say autism may make genius. 

But it is NOT roses or a sure road to success.

Chances of suicide are 3 times higher in them.

They don’t fit into the society and most likely never will.

They find making and maintaining friends hard. May end up never married or find it hard to maintain a relationship.

They don’t necessarily communicate the way we will understand or understand the way we communicate. 

Common Signs of Aspergers?

Just because you are socially awkward and introverted doesn’t mean you are an aspie.

-avoidance of eye contact 


-obsession with patterns, routine, repetition (OCD)

-obsession generally with particular object or topic of interest

-Not empathetic in the typical way

exceptional verbal skills (great vocabulary)

-below average non-verbal skills. Don’t understand gestures, body language, facial expressions 

-above average intuition(some say they are as close to psychics as they get)

-social and speech difficulties (their voices maybe monotonous with no emotion to it)

– do not typically show their emotions. An aspie may not show shock, surprise or fear on his face.

-may struggle with seeing from other’s perspectives

No you don’t want to be autistic. Forget the Elon Musk thing, they are facing so much hate and misunderstanding.

So much bullying and suicidal thoughts.

In Nigeria, there are parents trying to kill their kids because they are ‘possessed’.

In the western world, they are marginalized and called weirdos and oddballs. They don’t fit.

Society isn’t designed to accommodate them.

They are constantly misunderstood and harrased.

Imagine you being called out every single day for seeing the world the way you do.

Or being punished for seeing the sky as red not blue. When what you actually see is red.

Being stopped from doing something your brain says you MUST!


Remember that high ranking police official who couldn’t read well. Remember he kept blabbing ’transmission, transfusion, transfer…’ and it went viral. And we had a good laugh. And some turned it into a song. Mocked him good.

Well, I’m just here to tell you we are shitty people. 

I later learned (from unconfirmed sources) that he is dyslexic. Which means he can’t read as fluently as you can because that part of his brain which can easily decode letters and make sense of them is unfortunately not very developed. Says nothing negative about his intelligence.

So, let’s explore the four dys’s.



-Dyscalculia and


What they have in common? They are neurological disorders leading to learning disabilities . I.e a part of the persons brain responsible for that function just isn’t as responsive.

What they are not? A measure of intelligence. People with either of these are just as intelligent, sometimes more as it may be affiliated to other disorders like Autism.

Causes: Hereditary most times.


A chronic neurological disorder causing inability or great difficulty in learning to read or spell, despite normal intelligence. They just don’t recognize those symbols we know as letters or what to do with them.


-Very poor reading skills

-illegible or bad handwriting 

-writes letters in reverse (b instead of d)

-writes words in revers (deb instead of bed)

-Problems remembering or naming letters, numbers and colors

-trouble learning foreign languages

-difficulty memorizing 

-math difficulty 

-difficulty summarizing a story

Does it get better? It does but according to neurologists, it never really goes away.

Do they work? Definitely, normal jobs like you and me. They just need to educate their colleagues and employers about their conditions.

What else? Nothing! They are normal people.


Learning disabilities involving math. Often called number dyslexia.

A disability that impairs an individual’s ability to learn number-related concepts, perform accurate math calculations, reason and problem solve, and perform other basic math skills.

No, just because you have problem solving math problems doesn’t mean you have dyscalculia, there’s being bad at math (what you are 😏 ) and there’s having a neurological disorder which prevents your brain from making sense of math problems not to mention solving it.

There is no single type of math disability. Dyscalculia can vary from person to person. And, it can affect people differently at different stages of life.  


-visual-spatial difficulties (problems interpreting graphs, charts, maps, can’t tell how far objects are or space)

-bad at doing things like tying shoes

-language processing difficulties 

-Difficulty making sense of money and estimating quantities (told you you are just bad at math)

-Difficulty with telling time on an analog clock

-Poor visual and spatial orientation

-Difficulty immediately sorting out direction (right from left)

-Troubles with recognizing patterns and sequencing numbers

Other facts: it is present more in children with ADHD or ADD

Again, not a sign of intelligence or lack of it.

To everyone stigmatising people with bad handwriting, it may just be a sign of something bigger (shame on you). And it may just be that we have bad handwriting 😌.


Where dyslexia is a disorder that impairs the ability to read, dysgraphia impairs the ability to write.

Dysgraphia is a term that refers to trouble with writing. Many experts view dysgraphia as challenges with a set of skills known as transcription.

Dysgraphia makes the act of writing difficult. It can lead to problems with spelling, poor handwriting and organizing thoughts on paper. People with dysgraphia can have trouble organizing letters, numbers and words on a line or page.



  • Forming letters
  • Writing grammatically correct sentences 
  • Spacing letters correctly 
  • Writing in a straight line
  • Holding and controlling a writing tool 
  • Writing clearly enough to read back later
  • Writing complete words without skipping letters

Dysgraphia often occurs along with ADHD and learning differences. These include dyslexia, written expression disorder, and expressive language disorder. 

Caused by trouble with motor skills which can improve with therapy.


Or developmental coordination disorder (DCD).

Dyspraxia is a brain-based motor disorder. It affects fine and gross motor skills, motor planning, and coordination. It’s not related to intelligence, but it can sometimes affect cognitive skills.

 It is an immaturity in the way that the brain processes information, which results in messages not being properly or fully transmitted. 

Dyspraxia affects the planning of what to do and how to do it. It is associated with problems of perception, language and thought.

 Children that have dyspraxia may suffer from clumsiness, slightly slurred speech, awkwardness with walking or short term memory loss.


  • Unusual posture
  • difficulty with fin motor skills that affect writing, artwork, and playing with blocks and puzzles
  • coordination problems that make it difficult to hop, skip, jump, or catch a ball
  • Hand flapping, fidgeting, or being easily excitable
  • messy eating and drinking
  • Temper tantrums
  • Poor hand-eye coordination 
  • becoming less physically fit because they shy away from physical activities.

Although intelligence isn’t affected, dyspraxia can make it harder to learn and socialize due to:

  • a short attention span for tasks that are difficult
  • trouble following or remembering instructions
  • a lack of organizational skills
  • difficulty learning new skills
  • low self-esteem
  • immature behavior
  • trouble making friends

Dyspraxia is a lifelong condition. There’s currently no cure, but there are therapies that can help you effectively manage the disorder.

These disorders are often interconnected with a person having more than one.

They may be symptoms of other disorders such as autism.

They can be managed with therapy and they do get better in adulthood but some studies show that they can never be cured as they are not diseases.

People with either of the above disorders can lead normal lives with proper management 

Usually connected to ADHD or ADD in children.